In Defence of Motherhood

In stark contrast to the glowing review by Marina Fontaine, another review of Beyond the Mist appeared at the Publisher’s weekly website last week. The review contains a large number of spoilers and is a mixture of muted praise and sharp criticisms. Some of those criticisms claim that there are structural flaws in the storytelling and weak characterization. Perhaps those are justified, perhaps not, I am too close to the text to be able to be unbiased in that regard – I leave it to those who have read the book to decide if the reviewer is being fair. Other complaints seem to flow from political disagreements with the themes and concepts in the work. One issue in particular I would like to respond to without giving away too many spoilers.

Click on the image below to read the book for yourself unspoiled:

 

Beyond the Mist

Before I get to that main point, the reviewer begins thusly:

“The setting of [SPOILER] doesn’t quite fit this story…”

Hmm, giving away a major reveal in the book four words into a review. Dare I describe that as a little… unprofessional? No matter, moving on.

The reviewer felt that the wider setting of the book did not fit the story. Since no elaboration of this opinion is given, I should be charitable and assume that an overlooked inconsistency or flaw in one of my descriptive passages broke the reviewer’s suspension of disbelief.

I would find it disappointing to have let down my employer (you, the reader) in this way, as I specifically chose and designed the wider society of the book to be one that would be both sufficiently capable and motivated to subject the book’s initially nameless protagonist to the trials and challenges that he faces. (If I was being uncharitable, I would hazard a guess that the reviewer had fallen victim to the ‘modern’ myth of the Dark Ages in which those awful Godbotherers undid all of ancient Greece and Rome’s great progress and held humanity back from solving all of the world’s problems, achieving utopia, and who knows, reaching the stars by now.)

Let’s continue. Where were we, ah yes…

… this story centered on Christian values, free will, redemption, forgiveness, and repressive roles for women.

Oh dear. Perhaps being uncharitable was the wiser path. If there was any doubt about what the reviewer meant by ‘repressive roles’, a parallel complaint at the end of the review clarifies this for us:

women whose only goals involve cooking, marriage, and babies

I will get into minor spoilers here, so feel free to go and read the book before continuing if you haven’t already

Beyond the Mist

 

There are three possible women in the story that the reviewer could be referring to:

 

  1. A newlywed couple, where the wife brings her husband some food as he is working on a project, and they both seem to be very happy. We only get this brief glimpse of them before the protagonist moves on, so nothing else is revealed about their relationship. The horror! The repression! A bride happy to do something pleasant and helpful for her groom – how unrealistic!
  1. A woman who formerly prostituted herself in exchange for rank and privilege in a violent and deceptive tribe is now happy to be married to and carrying the baby of an honest and hardworking man from a peace-loving tribe who waited for her and forgave her past transgressions. Is she supposed to think that this change of fortunes is somehow a step backwards?
  1. A woman is forced to choose between a shaky but potentially positive career move and basically getting her husband back from the dead. To the surprise of no-one but gender studies majors, she chooses the latter and as part of welcoming him back into her home, she prepares a simple meal that they both used to enjoy. How dare she betray all of womankind like that! All men are the enemy, and all must be sacrificed for the sake of your career!

 

This sly belittling of marriage and motherhood is tiresome. Getting married is not a tragedy, motherhood is not a death sentence.

Becoming a parent, especially a mother, is a great challenge that nothing else in life can truly prepare you for. It is perhaps the most difficult thing you will ever do, the greatest responsibility, the greatest opportunity – to raise a new generation, to play a huge role in moulding your child’s character – helping to sculpt an eternal soul.

There will be times when you can’t cope and will need to reach out to others for help – there is no shame in that. Those times can often lead to the formation of bonds of friendship that you will value for the rest of your life.

The thousands of experiences it entails will transform, grow and enrich you in ways you can’t fathom, will bring you highs and lows like you never knew before, will enable you to rediscover the wonders of the world around you through the eyes of your child, and if approached with the right attitude, will make you a better person, into the greatest type of person.

You will make sacrifices you didn’t know you could make, inspire and comfort others in ways you didn’t know you were capable of.

To put it briefly, as Helen Parr (aka Elastigirl) amply demonstrated in The Incredibles:

Helen Parr

Mums are inherently awesome.

(I should know, I’m married to one 🙂 )

 

The below quote from the book is not actually talking about motherhood and all the sacrifices that mothers make for their children, but it fits that context pretty well, don’t you think?

BTM_importance_meme

For those of you who have read the book (and read this far), here is a link to the review that sparked this tirade of mine, so you can see for yourself if my response is warranted. I strongly advise waiting until after reading the book before reading the review, since it gives away a number of the book’s major reveals, even mildly misrepresenting some of them.

http://www.publishersweekly.com/978-0-9945163-0-5

 

 

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2 thoughts on “In Defence of Motherhood

  1. Originally, we were told that feminism would make women equal to men. But all that happened was that it tells women that they are supposed to be like men–aiming for and doing traditionally masculine tasks.

    Why are these traditionally-masculine tasks better?

    Women, throughout history, have cooked, cleaned, and raised families. Shouldn’t anything that makes women equal to men insist that these traditional feminine roles be granted more honor and respect?

    Instead, feminists treat women doing what women traditionally do and, in many cases, like to do, with much less respect than men used to.

    • It is very sad that so many women have been taken in by these awful lies, destroying themselves and their femininity for the promise of a worthless prestige (and often they don’t even get that).

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